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The first step is to figure out how your little girl has managed to successfully "insist" on something that you dislike. Is it that she cries when you put her in her own seat, and you can't stand to see her upset? Or is it that she'll eat only if you hold her on your lap, and you get anxious when she doesn't eat? It's also important to figure out why she behaves this way. What is it that she actually wants? To sit on your lap, or simply to avoid her booster seat?
Depending on the answers, the following ideas may be helpful:
Let her sit on your lap for her meals, but not for yours. If you find it uncomfortable to eat with a squirming toddler on your lap (and who wouldn't?), consider separate mealtimes. It's good to encourage shared meals and sociability, of course, but there's plenty of time for that. For now, think about letting her sit on your lap while she eats her meal, and then putting her down to play while you have yours.
Bring back her highchair. Many toddlers are still too little to safely use a booster seat, so your child may feel unsteady in hers — hence her desire to sit elsewhere. Getting her old highchair out of storage may be all it takes to solve the problem.
Give her plenty of lap time between meals. Perhaps your daughter wants to sit on your lap during meals because she doesn't get to spend enough time there between them. Try offering her a place on your lap while she plays with toys at the table, or as a cozy spot to lounge when she needs a break.
Focus on her eating. If you're anxious about your toddler's food consumption, you may unknowingly encourage the eating-on-your-lap routine simply because she eats more that way. If so, think about why she does better there. Perhaps she rejects her booster seat because it puts her "on stage" and subject to your inducements to eat more. In this case, you can't deal with the issue until you get your own anxiety under control. From now on, let your child know that it's up to her to eat (or not to eat), and don't push food at her. (Of course, the moment you stop pushing, she'll test the limits of your resolve by eating even less. Rest assured, though: Healthy children who are offered nourishing food in manageable forms don't starve themselves — though days may go by where they barely seem to eat anything at all.)
Try a different arrangement. Shaking up your toddler's mealtime routine may help to get her off of your lap. Consider feeding her while she sits in a toddler-sized chair at a small, low table (a coffee- or craft table, for instance). Serve a variety of finger foods that she can handle by herself with ease. Let her and Dad have a dinner "date" while you busy yourself elsewhere in the house. Or regularly invite another mom and toddler over for company. If you do, you may just help your toddler find a new routine that feels as comfortable to her as your lap did in the past.